by mjh » Thu Nov 13, 2008 7:52 pm
Next Leg, Big Changes
so I've been quiet recently, but I still check the site regularly. Don't often post, however, I've been busy with travelling and life in general. Also, I'm not really inclined to weigh in on many subjects until I'm practising what I'm preaching. Soon that will be the case, I hope. Afew guys have asked where I am, what I'm up to, so here's an update.
Right now I'm in San Francisco. I got here yesterday after a hellish journey from Ha Noi by way of Taipei. I was almost able to catch up with forum member Tresbien in Ha Noi, but the timing was off.
I had a wonderful time in Da Nang. The teaching was great, and I made a host of great friends. As I've described before, it's not heavily touristed, so it was that much easier to get to know the locals and how they live. I was welcomed into people's homes, and lives. So much so that I was reluctant to leave. Initially I planned to have 10 days in Ha Noi but revised that down to just 4 so I could spend more time with friends in Da Nang.
The major change in my life during this time came with the realisation that my fiancee and I are moving in different directions. We've ended our relationship amicably and happily. We agreed that if, after 4 years long distance, we still didn't have a firm vision of our future together, that maybe we weren't as committed as we tried to pretend. I realised that I was content, without her company. She realised the same, and so it's over. I'm still headed to Florida for Thanskgiving, to get some closure (all this happened over the phone and by email).
Sure, it's sad, but I feel good. Free, happy, positive. Searching and trying to shape the future, as I have been with Jen, is exhausting, and now I'm free to worry only about today and tomorrow.
In December I'll be at home in NZ, living off the profits that will come when I sell the 1000s of books I accumulated, through my teens and early 20s, but now have little real affection for and view as a millstone as much as anything else. There may be a job offer coming from Da Nang, and if it does materialise, I'll take it and be back in Vietnam early next year. If not, I'll do a CELTA qualification (English teaching) and try again.
I'll be back into training when I hit NZ. I've lost a lot of the gains I made in Korea, but I don't care too much. I'll get them back. Look for a new training log soon.
Take it easy guys and gals,
-Michael