looking at girls

[jleon]

Since I have started 5x5 and anabolic diet about 3 months ago I have seen amazing results, my confidence has also greatly increased, with that confidence I can now listen and have a conversation with anyone.

However this is my problem I cannot stop looking at boobs every single female I talk to I stare are think about not staring at their boobs, so even if I don't actually look at their boobs they can tell what I'm thinking.

If your laughing now you don't realize the seriousness of the situation people actually have been hiding from me and avoiding and I feel like shit throughout my day, because I go to college and their are tons of women everywhere.

Please Someone help me! Any advice is greatly appreciated. Feel free to post whatever you want, I can and will take all comments no matter how dumb, smart, long, or short.

[Tmv]

Suck it up and don't look at boobs. Maybe they want you to look at thier boobs! Also I think girls like it if you glance down at least once quickly, makes them feel better about themselves. Like when I walk down the airport halls at work and see a nice looking chick I say, hi how's it going with a smile and they almost always at one point look at my dick, I dunno what that's all about but I get a feeling like she wants my dick.... Just like u want her titties

[BlocHead]

If your laughing now you don't realize the seriousness of the situation

Guilty! Seriously though, its not really much of a problem. Every straight male does, if theres a girl out with any remote amount of cleavage on show its your duty to oggle (only a sly look ofc)

Jking aside, i think an increase in test from your training is probably having this effect on you, how old are you? If your a horny teenager then dont worry. Like anything its just practice NOT looking, you should be concentrating on the girl not her tits anyway, your only going to pick up the wrong type of girls talking to their boobs

[Mehdi]

Pinch yourself every time you do it, you'll associate it with pain. Think really good about why you're doing it and what you're trying to accomplish doing it. Look them in the eyes and pay attention to what they're saying.

Although if they have a huge décolleté, it can catch attention. No need to keep looking though.

[jleon]

Thank you guys for the great advice just talking about this has really relieved a lot of the pressure and the posts had me laughing about the whole thing. The pinching thing sounds like a sure thing gonna start doing it tomorrow.

I was kind of thinking the same thing about the testosterone, because I'm 19 and my diet now days is all meat all the time. Sometimes my emotions are all over the place and I get really pissed off about nothing in particular.

[coreJack]

Hey, it could be worse. I can't take my eyes off a woman's butt. Try having a conversation with an attractive woman when you have that condition. She figures out pretty quickly why you're walking in circles while talking to her.

[Trifin]

Hey, it could be worse. I can't take my eyes off a woman's butt. Try having a conversation with an attractive woman when you have that condition. She figures out pretty quickly why you're walking in circles while talking to her.

my man!

[pagangoddess]

Although if they have a huge décolleté, it can catch attention. No need to keep looking though.

I think that says it all. Once you look then there's no need to continue staring. Then you have ventured into creepy territory. Although there are many women who dress in such a way as to obtain as much attention to certain areas as they can. So it's hard to blame a guy for looking too long.

We all look ... men and women alike. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. But remember there is a person attached to those titties and should be treated as such.

[Trifin]

But remember there is a person attached to those titties...

Can I get that on a T-shirt?

[TakeFive]

Although if they have a huge décolleté, it can catch attention. No need to keep looking though.

That's something I've never quite reconciled. If a gal wears her blouse open, she must be ok with guys checking her out, right?

If I walked around with my shirt unbuttoned, I would expect people to look, even if it's just because of the Ewwwwwww! factor. But that would make me uncomfortable, so I keep it buttoned even if it's a hot day. Why wouldn't a woman stay covered if she's uncomfortable with the attention?

My opinion is that many women seek out those looks as a means of validation of their sexual attractiveness. It's just challenge for the guys not to cross over into the creepy territory by staring when every cell in your body is shouting LOOK!

[Mehdi]

Although if they have a huge décolleté, it can catch attention. No need to keep looking though.

That's something I've never quite reconciled. If a gal wears her blouse open, she must be ok with guys checking her out, right?

If I walked around with my shirt unbuttoned, I would expect people to look, even if it's just because of the Ewwwwwww! factor. But that would make me uncomfortable, so I keep it buttoned even if it's a hot day. Why wouldn't a woman stay covered if she's uncomfortable with the attention?

My opinion is that many women seek out those looks as a means of validation of their sexual attractiveness. It's just challenge for the guys not to cross over into the creepy territory by staring when every cell in your body is shouting LOOK!

Why they do it is their reason, doesn't matter to you.

Here's a rule: if you look, you go talk to her. Don't be that creepy guy who stares at her the whole time without approaching (or approaching 2h later when it's already too late). You look, you approach. Or you don't look.

[TakeFive]

Why they do it is their reason, doesn't matter to you.

I didn't imply their reason mattered to me. I was merely speculating on why a lot of women expose their chests.

Here's a rule: if you look, you go talk to her. Don't be that creepy guy who stares at her the whole time without approaching (or approaching 2h later when it's already too late). You look, you approach. Or you don't look.

"If there are no exceptions, then you don't need a rule" [Quote...10th grade logic teacher]

So here's the deal. This idea of civilization goes back, what several thousand years? The biogical imperitive goes back a lot further. Now maybe you're a cool customer just like Mr. Spock who can turn it off with zero will power, but put most (strait) guys in a room with a big set of knockers and they become damn near unable to focus on anything else.

But a lot of times it's inapproprate to approach - like one or both of you is married, or a vast age difference, or you're coworkers, etc.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that, sure, women should be free to wear what they want for and for whatever reason. But guys are going to look. That's just part of the bargain.

[Mehdi]

Approaching != hitting on women. Approaching is being social - talking.

If a guy says he can not control it, it's because you choose to. Face your back to her if you can't stop looking. Problem solved.

[RexRomano]

If a guy says he can not control it, it's because you choose to. Face your back to her if you can't stop looking. Problem solved.

Research that I only vaguely remember reading and couldn't cite in a million years (so disregard at will) suggests that often men can't control glancing at certain revealed parts of the female anatomy, including cleavage, nipples, buttocks, etc. They can look away when they become conscious of the glancing, but they can't stop the initial look.

At times, I have glanced repeatedly before I realized what I was doing and firmly forced myself to turn away. The problems start when she keeps presenting the sexy parts over and over and I must repeatedly force myself to ignore them. It gets annoying, frankly. Would a little modesty hurt? I'm not talking about a burka, but how about covering the most popular erogenous zones just for the sake of a happily married man's sanity.

[Tenmagnet]

However this is my problem I cannot stop looking at boobs every single female I talk to I stare are think about not staring at their boobs, so even if I don't actually look at their boobs they can tell what I'm thinking.

I agree with what the other posters said, but I'd say you're also being a bit paranoid. People cannot tell what you're thinking. Most of the time, they don't even care enough to wonder what you're thinking. Get that idea out of your head, it'll make you really self-conscious.

Also - women get checked out all the time. It's not unusual, or creepy, for a guy to really casually glance at a woman's body (including boobs) when she enters his field of view. Guys do this all the time, to the point where most of the time women don't even notice it. When women complain about guys who stare at them, or leer, keep in mind that those guys are *REALLY* leering pretty obviously. Don't get all self-conscious because your eyeball happened to point towards a woman's chest for a fraction of a second - it's really not a big deal, and most people don't notice. They WILL notice though, if you get all self-conscious about it and start acting weird.

If your laughing now you don't realize the seriousness of the situation people actually have been hiding from me and avoiding and I feel like shit throughout my day, because I go to college and their are tons of women everywhere.

Ok... if this is true, you're probably leering pretty obviously.

Keep this in mind though - most people go through their lives worrying about what other people think of them, not judging and criticizing others. If you think people are trying to read your mind, or judging you all the time, you're probably wrong, and wasting your time and mental energy. Don't be a creep, don't worry about what people are thinking about you, and you'll feel more liberated, have more fun, and people will like you better. And you can check girls boobs out here and there and nobody will care.