And I'm not talking about crabmeat. I'm talking about those people eager to pull you back down into the barrel every time you try to improve yourself.
Threatened by your desire to change your life. Envious that you'd reach higher grounds than them. Fearful that they'd be left alone in their pathetic barrel.
The crab's natural habitat is usually your very own social circle - long-term friends, family members, colleagues. You can easily recognize the crab by its endless admonishing whenever you talk about your plans and goals.
Their point: you cannot do it - even though these opinionated know-it-alls rarely have any results to show for. Quick to criticize your diet, disrupt your training, and share "health advice". Meanwhile they're fat, skinny and out of shape.
I've said before that the biggest stumbling block is yourself - what you believe you can and cannot achieve. Napoleon Hill stressed in his bestseller Think & Grow Rich that self-confidence is vital to achieve your goal.
It is therefore crucial that you do not let these foolish crabs damage your confidence and cause you to doubt. And don't even try to convince them that you can do it - I assure you that will be a huge waste of your time.
After countless interactions with crabs over the past 15 years, I've developed a 3 step failproof method to deal with them that goes like this:
- Agree, but continue doing what you're doing
- Eliminate that person from your life
- Let your results do the talking
When I started lifting weights 11y ago, one of my friends that I knew since kindergarten, told me that I would'n stick with it. He was one of the guys with whom I started lifting and who quit after 3 months. Say that once I can take it. Say that over & over, you're becoming a problem. I stopped seeing him.
This is not about being right. This is about deciding what matters to you, doing what it takes and refusing distractions. Whether you like it or not, you are the sum of the 7 people you hang out with most. Like Stronglifts Member Jared once said, "If you want to fly with eagles, don't scratch with turkeys."
It can be a bummer discovering that you're surrounded by unsupportive crabs, but you can't make an omelet without breaking eggs. The good news is that there are plenty of guys who think right. It is your responsibility to start paying attention to them, and then reach out. The SL Community is a great start.
Either that or you stay in the barrel.